{"id":3512,"date":"2022-07-25T23:49:20","date_gmt":"2022-07-26T04:49:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/articulos\/6-maneras-de-proteger-su-matrimonio\/"},"modified":"2022-07-25T23:49:20","modified_gmt":"2022-07-26T04:49:20","slug":"6-maneras-de-proteger-su-matrimonio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/articulos\/6-maneras-de-proteger-su-matrimonio\/","title":{"rendered":"6 maneras de proteger su matrimonio"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Por Mark Dance<\/em><\/p>\n

Cuando respond\u00ed al llamado de Dios al ministerio vocacional a los 16 a\u00f1os de edad, no recuerdo considerar ninguna parte de la descripci\u00f3n b\u00edblica de mi trabajo. No pens\u00e9 en c\u00f3mo mi matrimonio afectar\u00eda mi ministerio o viceversa.<\/p>\n

En algunos aspectos, me alegro de no haberme dado cuenta de todos los desaf\u00edos que inevitablemente traer\u00eda el matrimonio.<\/p>\n

Es dif\u00edcil hacer crecer un matrimonio en circunstancias normales, pero para las parejas del ministerio, lo que est\u00e1 en juego es a\u00fan mayor. El matrimonio de un pastor tiene una capa adicional de expectativas para administrar bien tanto el ministerio vocacional como el matrimonio (1 Timoteo 3; Tito 1).<\/p>\n

Entonces, con estas altas apuestas en mente, \u00bfqu\u00e9 debemos hacer cuando nuestro matrimonio est\u00e1 \u00bfTienes problemas?<\/p>\n

1. Arr\u00e9glate a ti mismo primero.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Si eres esposo y pastor, est\u00e1s llamado a liderar dos familias. La palabra griega para \u00abadministrar\u00bb es proist\u0113mi<\/em> (pararse delante o liderar). Es la misma palabra que se usa para describir el don de liderazgo en Romanos 12.<\/p>\n

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Si nuestro matrimonio est\u00e1 decayendo o incluso muriendo, debemos asumir la responsabilidad personal por el problema ya que somos los l\u00edderes principales (Efesios 5).<\/p>\n

El La Biblia no nos ense\u00f1a a los pastores a equilibrar nuestras vidas, nos dice que administremos nuestras vidas. Por ejemplo, si est\u00e1s descuidando a tu esposa porque lo diste todo en la oficina, has administrado mal tanto tu ministerio como tu matrimonio al administrar mal tu propia vida.<\/p>\n

\u201cPresta mucha atenci\u00f3n a tu vida y a tu ense\u00f1ando; persevera en estas cosas, porque haci\u00e9ndolas te salvar\u00e1s a ti mismo y a los que te oyen\u201d (1 Timoteo\u202d4:16).<\/p>\n

2. Broaden the conversation.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Since you\u2019re a co-dependent member of the body of Christ, why would you hesitate to let others help your marriage get and stay healthy?<\/p>\n

If your marriage is struggling, prayerfully consider walking through this difficult stretch with another couple or a counselor. It might surprise you to know how many ministry couples have benefitted from clinical counseling.<\/p>\n

3. Fight for your family.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

It saddens me to say I\u2019ve yet to have an immediate predecessor or successor finish well. Four out of seven of these ugly exits were marriage meltdowns.<\/p>\n

Janet and I write and talk about marriage so much people probably assume we live in a constant honeymoon state. We speak at about 20 events a year together, and some of our worst arguments have been on the way to those events!<\/p>\n

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I\u2019m not talking about toothpaste and toilet paper arguments either. We do have a very healthy marriage, but as Janet recently told our married daughter, \u201cWe fought our way here.\u201d<\/p>\n

4. Truth.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Pastor, don\u2019t ignore or evade the problems in your marriage. Once your season of struggling is over, you may be tempted to forgive and forget.<\/p>\n

Instead of forgetting your mistakes\u2014learn from them. Love covers a multitude of sins; it doesn\u2019t ignore them. Fight for your marriage, even if it means tackling the tougher issues.<\/p>\n

5. Get equipped.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Recently, Janet and I created videos for a new tool for churches called Woo Marriage (coming in May). This digital tool will help you prepare couples for marriage, strengthen marriages, and restore relationships in your church.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll find many helpful coaching videos from various couples, but the ones Janet and I worked on are specifically for ministry couples.<\/p>\n

This tool will not only help you win at marriage ministry, but will bring your couples closer to each other and Christ.<\/p>\n

Download their free guide on their homepage and be on the lookout for more updates.<\/p>\n

6. Cover with grace.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Two strong words jump out at me in a pastor\u2019s job description: they must be competent (1 Timothy 3:4) and blameless (Titus 1:6).<\/p>\n

Neither implies perfection because perfect husbands and fathers don\u2019t exist. Otherwise, there would be no leadership in any of our churches!<\/p>\n

We must pastor our homes with the same gospel-drenched grace that we draw on to pastor our churches.<\/p>\n

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Mark Dance<\/h2>\n

@markdance<\/strong><\/p>\n

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After serving as a pastor for 28 years, Mark is now the director of pastoral wellness for Guidestone Financial Resources. He frequently speaks at churches, conferences, and retreats\u2014often with his wife Janet. Read more from him at\u00a0MarkDance.net.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n