{"id":3662,"date":"2022-07-25T23:53:45","date_gmt":"2022-07-26T04:53:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/articulos\/5-mitos-que-vale-la-pena-desmentir-sobre-la-tutoria\/"},"modified":"2022-07-25T23:53:45","modified_gmt":"2022-07-26T04:53:45","slug":"5-mitos-que-vale-la-pena-desmentir-sobre-la-tutoria","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/articulos\/5-mitos-que-vale-la-pena-desmentir-sobre-la-tutoria\/","title":{"rendered":"5 mitos que vale la pena desmentir sobre la tutor\u00eda"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Por Mark Dance<\/em><\/p>\n

Varias suposiciones y generalizaciones sobre la tutor\u00eda se han transformado en mitos con el tiempo. En esta publicaci\u00f3n, revisar\u00e9 un par de esas suposiciones para ayudarlo a encontrar un mentor. Todos necesitamos uno que nos ayude a crecer como personas y como pastores.<\/p>\n

Si establecemos nuestros est\u00e1ndares artificialmente altos, la tutor\u00eda ser\u00e1 solo otra oportunidad para un viaje de culpa. Mi oraci\u00f3n es que despu\u00e9s de que explotemos un pu\u00f1ado de mitos de mentores, Dios traiga a su mente a alguien que se ajuste perfectamente a usted.<\/p>\n

MITO #1 – Un mentor debe ser m\u00e1s inteligente que el aprendiz.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Dejamos de aprender y crecer si solo escuchamos a aquellos que tienen m\u00e1s experiencia o educaci\u00f3n que nosotros.<\/p>\n

Pastores por lo general comienzan sus ministerios como aprendices entusiastas. Pero el orgullo puede colarse f\u00e1cilmente y convencernos de que no necesitamos maestros despu\u00e9s de la graduaci\u00f3n o la ordenaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Solo buscaremos un mentor si realmente creemos que lo necesitamos.<\/p>\n

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No escucharon ni prestaron atenci\u00f3n, sino que siguieron sus propios consejos y de acuerdo con su propio coraz\u00f3n obstinado y malvado. Fueron hacia atr\u00e1s y no hacia adelante. Jerem\u00edas \u202d7\u202c:\u202d24\u202c<\/p>\n

A good mentor doesn\u2019t need more degrees or a prominent position to help you move forward in your faith. A good mentor simply needs a humble mentee.<\/p>\n

MYTH #2 – A mentor has to be older than a mentee.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I\u2019ve contributed somewhat to this myth by recommending pastors find someone roughly ten years old than them. As a general rule, I still stand by that (Titus 2:2-5), but there are so many exceptions to that rule that I feel the need to downgrade that requirement to a preference.<\/p>\n

One contributing factor to this myth is the term \u201celder\u201d literally means an older person. The context of that term determines whether it\u2019s referring to a church office or the person\u2019s stage of life. Either context suggests someone that has already journeyed the road you\u2019re heading down.<\/p>\n

So, if your mentor has fewer birthdays than you do (which is fine), I suggest they at least need to have more ministry experience than you.<\/p>\n

MYTH #3 – The mentor needs to initiate the relationship.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The pastors I\u2019m mentoring these days have all initiated the relationship with me. I approached my mentors in the same way, but I\u2019ve learned this isn\u2019t the only valid mentoring model.<\/p>\n

If someone offers to help you grow professionally and personally, don\u2019t hesitate to meet with them a few times to see if the relationship is helpful.<\/p>\n

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MYTH #4 – You might get stuck with the wrong mentor.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

What if you start meeting with someone who drains you or has a hidden agenda? Toxic mentors are usually not that hard to get away from, but if necessary, run like the wind!<\/p>\n

Most of my mentoring relationships last 3-5 years. These are not contractual relationships as much as they\u2019re seasonal.<\/p>\n

I am delighted to have Stephanas, Fortunatus, and Achaicus present…For they have refreshed my spirit and yours. 1 Corinthians 16:17-18<\/p>\n

A couple of my mentors are lifers. Home church pastors often make great lifetime mentors, as do state, associational, and seminary leaders. Even when I moved to a different zip code, these mentors found a way of staying in my life and in my head.<\/p>\n

MYTH #5 – A mentor must have no authority over you.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I have to walk this one back because I\u2019ve taught for years that a mentor shouldn\u2019t be on your staff. Granted, it\u2019s harder to speak frankly when your mentor is above or below you on an organizational chart, but it\u2019s not impossible.<\/p>\n

Paul had spiritual authority over Timothy, yet he still coached and cheered Timothy on until his dying breath.<\/p>\n

A mentor holds a position of relational authority that\u2019s only granted voluntarily by the mentee. Any additional layer of spiritual or organizational authority may complicate that relationship; however, it doesn’t automatically forfeit it.<\/p>\n

The primary qualification for a good mentor is that they\u2019ll care about you as a person, not just as a pastor. If a mentor has consistently invested in your personal and professional growth, the best way to thank God for them is to pay it forward.<\/p>\n

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Mark Dance<\/h2>\n

@markdance<\/strong><\/p>\n

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After serving as a pastor for 28 years, Mark is now the director of pastoral wellness for Guidestone Financial Resources. He frequently speaks at churches, conferences, and retreats\u2014often with his wife Janet. Read more from him at\u00a0MarkDance.net.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n