W<\/b>hat\u2019s dumping? Dumping takes all your trashy negative feelings and uses your spouse as a garbage can. Dumping may help you feel better, but it transfers your negative feelings and attitudes to someone else.<\/p>\n
I remember a time when I would come home and tell my wife all my negative feelings about a certain person. When I finished dumping, I felt better but she would then feel negative toward that person. A.W. Tozer suggested an important spiritual vow, \u201cNever pass anything on about anyone that would hurt them.\u201d<\/p>\n
That vow includes your spouse. Instead of dumping, try debriefing. Debriefing requires both mates to agree on how and what they will share with each other.<\/p>\n
Debriefing \u2026 <\/p>\n
Takes responsibility<\/b> for your own feelings. Instead of blaming others for how you feel, you share what you feel and how you can heal from your hurts and overcome negativity and offense.<\/p>\n
Agrees<\/b> that you will cast your cares on the Lord. Instead of being burdened by your problems, you turn to God with them.<\/p>\n
Prays<\/b> in order to receive God\u2019s perspective. Wisdom comes from God. Wisdom is how God sees the problem. Prayer helps you see the situation from God\u2019s perspective.<\/p>\n
Acts<\/b> in faith trusting God to change you and release His potential and healing in you.<\/p>\n
Try this: Debrief one another the next time one of you brings home a hurt.<\/p>\n
When others are happy, be happy with them.
If they are sad, share their sorrow.<\/i><\/p>\n
Rom. 12:15 TLB<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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