\u201cI\u2019m tired of hearing myself talk.\u201d I can remember my mother frequently making this comment.<\/p>\n
Frankly, she was talking, but I wasn\u2019t listening. I had all of her \u201csermons\u201d memorized. So when she turned on the message, I tuned out.<\/p>\n
Failing to learn anything, I began preaching to my children. Then I discovered my children doing the same thing to me\u2014tuning me out. Old habits are hard to break.<\/p>\n
Parenting is not an endless succession of sermonettes or monologues that we play over and over again until they are indelibly etched on the minds of our children.<\/p>\n
If you find yourself preaching more than teaching, talking more than listening, and using monologues more than dialogues, stop. Use questions and open-ended statements more than threats, dictums, dogmas, and rules. And use \u201cI\u201d messages instead of \u201cYou\u201d messages that tend to blame, project feelings, and shut off meaningful dialogue.<\/p>\n
Remember that the goal of a conversation with your child is to share, not to \u201chit and run.\u201d We are often so busy and stressed that we deliver the monologue in a rush as we run out the door, drive out the driveway, or quickly call on the phone. Our concern is to tell them what we want instead of listening, sharing and really understanding.<\/p>\n
Put yourself to the test. The next time you are delivering a familiar monologue, stop mid-sentence and see if your child can finish the message. If she can, then you might say, \u201cWill you forgive me for talking at<\/i> you instead of talking with<\/i> you?\u201d<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t ever forget that it is best to listen much, speak little, and not become angry <\/i>(James 1:19 TLB).<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u201cI\u2019m tired of hearing myself talk.\u201d I can remember my mother frequently making this comment. Frankly, she was talking, but I wasn\u2019t listening. I had all of her \u201csermons\u201d memorized. So when she turned on the message, I tuned out. Failing to learn anything, I began preaching to my children. Then I discovered my children … Continue reading “4 TALKING AT CHILDREN IS A MONOLOGUE WITH
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