\u201cMommy, can I get this?\u201d the young child pleads, holding a toy pulled off the store\u2019s shelf.<\/p>\n
\u201cNo, you can\u2019t have it. Put it down,\u201d scolds the mother.<\/p>\n
Immediately a big struggle erupts in the middle of the store, as the child throws a temper tantrum. His behavior dares the mother to discipline him in public. Trying to quiet the child, the mother gives in to the child\u2019s wants.<\/p>\n
This typical scene gets replayed millions of times each day between parents and children. When a parent sets boundaries for a young child, the parent needs to be proactive. That means that the parent and child understand what lies within the child\u2019s boundaries of needs. Children can learn to express needs like:<\/p>\n
\u2022 \u201cI\u2019m hungry. When can we eat?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 \u201cI\u2019m thirsty. May I have a drink?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 \u201cI\u2019m cold. I need a coat.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 \u201cI\u2019m tired. I need to rest.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u2022 \u201cI\u2019m bored. I need to be involved.\u201d<\/p>\n
Parents can respond to such needs by meeting them or explaining what will be done to meet the need. Within a child\u2019s boundaries are acceptable actions and attitudes that bring blessings. The parent doesn\u2019t fill a child\u2019s boundaries with don\u2019ts. Rather, the majority of teaching and training needs to focus on dos. For example, you need to rest when you are tired. You need to eat food that\u2019s good for your body. You need to get involved in a fun, creative activity when you are bored. <\/i><\/p>\n
Avoid focusing on instructions like: Don\u2019t get out of bed. Don\u2019t eat candy. Don\u2019t move when I tell you to sit still. <\/i>Look for ways to meet a child\u2019s needs instead of gratifying his wants just to keep him \u201cout of your hair.\u201d<\/p>\n
A life filled with don\u2019ts for a child becomes very frustrating. Focus on what a child can do and have in meeting their needs instead of what they can\u2019t do and have to get what they want. Wants are based on immediate urges that aren\u2019t necessary for a child\u2019s physical health and safety or his emotional or spiritual well being.<\/p>\n
Like our heavenly Father, we meet the real needs not the momentary whims or wants of a child.<\/p>\n
And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus <\/i>(Phil. 4:19).<\/i> Action Steps I\/We Need to Take<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u201cMommy, can I get this?\u201d the young child pleads, holding a toy pulled off the store\u2019s shelf. \u201cNo, you can\u2019t have it. Put it down,\u201d scolds the mother. Immediately a big struggle erupts in the middle of the store, as the child throws a temper tantrum. His behavior dares the mother to discipline him in … Continue reading “37 TEACH YOUR CHILDREN TO DISCERN BETWEEN
\nNEEDS AND WANTS BY MEETING THEIR NEEDS, NOT THEIR WANTS.”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14016","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-sermons"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14016","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14016"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14016\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14016"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14016"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14016"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}