A Definition<\/b><\/p>\n
Definition of an antagonist: someone who on the basis of non- substantive evidence, goes out of their way to make insatiable demands, usually attacking the person or performance of others; these attacks are selfish in nature, tear down rather than build up, and are frequently directed against leadership.<\/p>\n
From \u201cAntagonists in the Church\u201d by K. Haugk, p. 27.<\/p>\n
Levels of Conflict<\/b><\/p>\n
Ability to work with <\/b><\/p>\n
Level of conflict <\/b><\/p>\n
Objective<\/b><\/p>\n
Impossible<\/p>\n
Intractable situation <\/p>\n
Destroy opponent at any cost to them or me<\/p>\n
Very difficult <\/p>\n
Fight\/flight <\/p>\n
Hurt opponents or get rid of them<\/p>\n
Tough<\/p>\n
Contests<\/p>\n
Win, put others in their place<\/p>\n
Easy <\/p>\n
Disagreements<\/p>\n
Self-protection<\/p>\n
Easiest<\/p>\n
Problem to solve <\/p>\n
Work out a solution<\/p>\n
From \u201cAntagonists in the Church\u201d by K. Haugk<\/p>\n
Kinds of Antagonists<\/b><\/p>\n
Hard core (usually irrational, unreasonable). <\/p>\n
Major antagonist (possible to reason with them, but they will not be reasoned with). <\/p>\n
From \u201cAntagonists in the Church\u201d by K. Haugk, p. 28<\/p>\n
Identifying Antagonists<\/b><\/p>\n
1. Is his\/her behavior disruptive?<\/p>\n
2. Is the attack irrational?<\/p>\n
3. Does he\/she go out of h\/h way to initiate trouble?<\/p>\n
4. Does h\/s make insatiable demands?<\/p>\n
5. Are h\/h concerns minimal or fabricated?<\/p>\n
6. Does h\/s avoid causes that involve personal risk\/suffering\/sacrifice?<\/p>\n
7. Does h\/h motivation appear selfish?<\/p>\n
Red Flags To Watch For:<\/b><\/p>\n
1. Previous track record<\/p>\n
2. Parallel track record (antagonist at work, school, club, etc.)<\/p>\n
3. Nameless others: \u201cAt least 24 others feel this same way.\u201d<\/p>\n
4. Criticism of predecessor<\/p>\n
5. Instant buddy<\/p>\n
6. Gushing praise<\/p>\n
7. \u201cI Gotcha!\u201d Asks leading questions, tries to trap you.<\/p>\n
8. Extraordinary likeability<\/p>\n
9. Church hopper<\/p>\n
10. Liar<\/p>\n
11. Uses aggressive means: extreme, combative, unethical <\/p>\n
12. Flashes $$$<\/p>\n
13. Takes notes at inappropriate times<\/p>\n
14. Sarcasm, cutting language<\/p>\n
15. Different drummer, always doing things their own way<\/p>\n
16. A pest–incessant phone calls, questions, etc.<\/p>\n
17. The \u201ccause\u201d<\/p>\n
Early Warning Signs:<\/b><\/p>\n
1. Chill in the relationship<\/p>\n
2. Honeyed \u201cconcerns\u201d — \u201cDear pastor, I have a concern about \u2026\u201d may mean \u201cI\u2019m angry!!\u201d<\/p>\n
3. Nettlesome questions<\/p>\n
4. Mobilizing forces, pot stirring<\/p>\n
5. Meddling in others\u2019 responsibilities<\/p>\n
6. Resistance<\/p>\n
Later Warning Signs:<\/b><\/p>\n
1. Sloganeering<\/p>\n
2. Accusing<\/p>\n
3. Spying<\/p>\n
4. Distorting<\/p>\n
5. Misquoting scripture<\/p>\n
6. \u201cJudas kissing\u201d — \u201cI\u2019m your friend, but I have to say\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
7. Smirking<\/p>\n
8. Letter writing (don\u2019t respond with a lengthy, reasoned answer)<\/p>\n
9. Pretense<\/p>\n
10. Lobbying<\/p>\n
Preventing Antagonism:<\/b><\/p>\n
1. Follow established policies<\/p>\n
2. Functional feedback channels<\/p>\n
3. Job descriptions<\/p>\n
4. Broad base of responsibility<\/p>\n
5. Discipline that works<\/p>\n
6. Anticipatory socialization–let people know plans <\/p>\n
7. United front within leadership<\/p>\n
Relating To Dormant Antagonists:<\/b><\/p>\n
1. Act professionally<\/p>\n
2. Keep your distance<\/p>\n
3. Be accurate, don\u2019t guess, estimate<\/p>\n
4. Avoid excessive positive reinforcement<\/p>\n
5. Tighten the reins<\/p>\n
6. Don\u2019t seek sympathy from others<\/p>\n
7. Don\u2019t form a committee to look into accusations, this only appears to give credibility to their charges<\/p>\n
8. Don\u2019t call for a vote of confidence<\/p>\n
From \u201cAntagonists in the Church\u201d by K. Haugk<\/p>\n
Quotes<\/b><\/p>\n
\u2022 Don\u2019t use public channels to combat antagonists. This only gives them attention and credibility. – Anon<\/p>\n
\u2022 \u201cNothing can be stated so perfectly as not to be misunderstood.\u201d Philip Melanchthon<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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