{"id":31550,"date":"2022-09-10T15:34:47","date_gmt":"2022-09-10T20:34:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/6-people-at-risk-of-leaving-your-church\/"},"modified":"2022-09-10T15:34:47","modified_gmt":"2022-09-10T20:34:47","slug":"6-people-at-risk-of-leaving-your-church","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/6-people-at-risk-of-leaving-your-church\/","title":{"rendered":"6 People at Risk of Leaving Your Church"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By Josh King<\/em><\/p>\n

Sometimes what we focus on as a church has unintended consequences, like making groups of people feel unwanted.<\/p>\n

Church work is largely built around the nuclear family\u2014a mom, a dad, and a few kids. This is why the emphasis is often placed on the children’s ministry.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong; I think that’s where the first work should be. Reaching families and children is a great strategy for numerous reasons.<\/p>\n

Yet it\u2019s also helpful to think through others in our church who may be feel a little on the outside\u2014and are perhaps tempted to jump ship.<\/p>\n

Here are a few of the people with one foot out the door and what it may take to include them.<\/p>\n

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1. The Single Adult<\/strong><\/h3>\n

For most churches this is probably the easiest to identify. Most churches are small in size and lack a robust ministry for single adults. It\u2019s tough to keep them.<\/p>\n

In some ways we don\u2019t really blame them. If they desire marriage, what better place to find a spouse than in church?<\/p>\n

On the other hand, they\u2019re part of the church family. We want them to feel like they\u2019re part of the family\u2014because they are.<\/p>\n

It can go a long way to simply recognize they\u2019re part of the group. For this reason we don\u2019t build all of our women’s events around the joy of motherhood or being a wife.<\/p>\n

We also provide supplemental studies that can be applied to all stages of life, not just for marriage.<\/p>\n

Single adults aren\u2019t looking for special attention; they just don\u2019t want to be ignored.<\/p>\n

2. The Educated<\/strong><\/h3>\n

God gave us minds and our ability to reason\u2014yet we rarely engage it. As a result the highly educated and intellectually motivated find us boring and end up leaving.<\/p>\n

Engage them through preaching and conversations. We’d do well to build discussion questions on sermons or include points in the sermon in which we discuss or wrestle with deeper thoughts.<\/p>\n

For instance, there are always questions about loving our neighbors, but we rarely discuss what it means to love\u2014and how love engages emotions like hate and envy and whether or not love is an emotion at all.<\/p>\n

When the deep thinkers in our church discover that nearly everything we do is done out of habit or tradition they disengage looking for a mission that is done for a reason and that is thought through.<\/p>\n

3. The Business Smart<\/strong><\/h3>\n

I\u2019ve never met a successful business professional who couldn\u2019t understand that the local church is about people, not profits. They get that.<\/p>\n

What they have a hard time grasping is why we mismanage the people, the resources, and the strategy. What\u2019s worse is that few churches have a strategy or a budget that aligns with their mission.<\/p>\n

To keep this group engaged we must think through stewardship and regularly display a desire to be good managers of the people and resources God has given us.<\/p>\n

Just because something is a sound business strategy doesn\u2019t make it worldly. If it\u2019s sound in the business world it\u2019s worth examining for the church world as well.<\/p>\n

4. The Bored<\/strong><\/h3>\n

The first day of my first soccer practice was in the classroom. We learned about the game.<\/p>\n

And while we would regularly find time in the classroom much more of what followed was on the field. We had to actually play the game.<\/p>\n

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Too many churches are filled with classes and studies and lessons and very little if any activity. It\u2019s no wonder people would leave to go find something to actually do<\/em>. The obvious solution here is to do something<\/em>.<\/p>\n

You\u2019d be amazed at how many more people will show up to a workday than will show up to a one-day conference\u2014if it\u2019s done right and articulated.<\/p>\n

5. The Recent Graduate<\/strong><\/h3>\n

It seems like all my ministry cohorts have been concerned with losing the younger groups. Some churches have massive youth ministries but when those students graduate they leave the church.<\/p>\n

One of the reasons this happens is the way we switch churches on them. As students, they meet primarily on Wednesday evenings and have home groups and lots of activities. The entire service is interactive and relevant.<\/p>\n

All of a sudden\u2014after they\u2019ve received a high school diploma\u2014they\u2019re told to switch to Sunday morning classes, listen to music that doesn\u2019t sound anything like what they\u2019re used to hearing, and to absorb a lecture.<\/p>\n

To many, it seems like they\u2019re being forced to go to a completely new church.<\/p>\n

The way to stop this is to break some of the disparity between the two. They should complement, not compete. The lead pastor should be visible and present in the NextGen ministries.<\/p>\n

Schedules are going to shift, but it shouldn\u2019t feel like a completely different experience.<\/p>\n

6. The Principled <\/strong><\/h3>\n

The last group with one foot out the door includes people with incredibly high standards.<\/p>\n

They have specific views on international missions. They believe there\u2019s one ideal discipleship strategy or program and can\u2019t quite figure out why you wouldn\u2019t want to use it.<\/p>\n

For this group, I simply say: Let them go. If you have no strategy or plan in the areas they\u2019re passionate about then by all means learn from them. Perhaps God has led them to your faith family to strengthen you.<\/p>\n

But if they seek only to recreate your church in their image, I would just let them keep moving. I promise, you will save yourself so much heartache, and they will eventually leave anyway.<\/p>\n

A Multi-Generational Family<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Lastly let me just share with you our strategy that has helped get most people to put both feet in our church. We\u2019ve built everything to be about a church family and relationships.<\/p>\n

We\u2019re not a collection of specialized ministries. We\u2019re a family made up of several different generations and hundreds of different kinds of people.<\/p>\n

This is fleshed out on a smaller scale through small groups. Everyone can be a part of the church family: grandmothers, infants, college students, singles, young professionals, divorcees, and more.<\/p>\n

Just like any <\/em>family.<\/p>\n

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Josh King<\/h2>\n

@JoWiKi<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Josh is pastor of Second Baptist Church in Conway, Arkansas, husband of Jacki, and father of three boys.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n