{"id":31823,"date":"2022-09-10T15:45:26","date_gmt":"2022-09-10T20:45:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/5-ways-to-cultivate-vulnerability-in-your-small-group\/"},"modified":"2022-09-10T15:45:26","modified_gmt":"2022-09-10T20:45:26","slug":"5-ways-to-cultivate-vulnerability-in-your-small-group","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/5-ways-to-cultivate-vulnerability-in-your-small-group\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Ways to Cultivate Vulnerability in Your Small Group"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By Reid Smith<\/em><\/p>\n

Vulnerability is uncomfortable. A turtle that\u2019s belly up is vulnerable. It\u2019s stuck and has no defense. That\u2019s what vulnerability feels like to most people, which is why it\u2019s unnatural to choose to go there.<\/p>\n

People don\u2019t naturally pursue ways to make themselves feel exposed to some kind of insult or injury. However, it is a path leaders must tread if the relationships within their small groups are to deepen.<\/p>\n

God chose to be vulnerable with us. \u201cThe Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us\u201d (John 1:14a, NIV). Eternal relationship is possible because the Lord became vulnerable with us through His birth and crucifixion.<\/p>\n

Although vulnerability feels weak, it can be the result of one who exercises the strength of authenticity. A strong leader endures the risk of becoming vulnerable because he or she knows it is the pathway to biblical community.<\/p>\n

One of the reasons group members complain of a group not being \u201cdeep enough,\u201d is not so much due to shallow curriculum, as it is the lack of relational depth among participants.<\/p>\n

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The vulnerability that flows from authenticity deepens relationships and results in group discussions that have more depth and challenge to them.<\/p>\n

There is no greater influence on the dynamic of a group than how real the leader is with the participants. Authenticity is contagious!<\/p>\n

A leader who is transparent will inspire others to be more real with each other, and consequently, group members will look forward to getting together with more enthusiasm than you might have thought possible!<\/p>\n

Like many leadership qualities, authenticity is something that can be developed and it\u2019s worth the investment so that your group members will be free to be themselves and share from the heart.<\/p>\n

These five practices will enable you to become genuinely more authentic in how you lead so that your group can experience biblical community.<\/p>\n

1. Be prepared to answer first and err on the side of risk. <\/h3>\n

Look ahead at the questions to be asked and envision how you could answer with transparency. This will help you to take risks in the moment for the sake of others.<\/p>\n

2. Be honest about the gap between desire and reality.<\/h3>\n

None of us is where we want to be, and when the leader is transparent about the gap in their personal life, it invites others to deeper levels of participation.<\/p>\n

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For example, \u201cI know how important it is to have a devotional time each day, but there are seasons when I struggle with this\u2026lately, I\u2019ve let other things take priority in my life and I want this to change. Please pray for me.\u201d Though some might view this as vulnerability that shows weakness, it is the exact opposite.<\/p>\n

People are more likely to be open about their personal needs when they hear others express struggles they identify with and this will generate more ministry moments in your group life.<\/p>\n

3. Show grace and your need for it. <\/h3>\n

Be a good listener, patient, empathetic and non-judgmental in response to others.<\/p>\n

This graceful disposition will encourage others to open up and share more. Group members will be further inclined to risk vulnerability when the leader expresses gratitude for God\u2019s amazing grace and underscores our common dependency on Christ.<\/p>\n

4. Don\u2019t spin.<\/h3>\n

When you get something wrong, acknowledge it openly and don\u2019t be hard on yourself. Freely admit mistakes and share how you learned from them. Your imperfections make your group a safe space for people to be vulnerable.<\/p>\n

5. Forgive. <\/h3>\n

Grudges and unforgiveness toward others (whether they\u2019re a part of the group or not) create barriers in relationships and make it more difficult to be vulnerable.<\/p>\n

Conversely, forgiveness cultivates authenticity and allows us to worship God fully (Matthew 5:23-24). It\u2019s imperative for us to be right with people if we want to be real with others.<\/p>\n

These practices will help you to be authentic and traverse the uncertain terrain of vulnerability.<\/p>\n

Know that the Holy Spirit will use your faithfulness in this area to break-through to real community, deepen relationships, fuel disciple-making, and compel your group members to also have the same mindset as Christ Jesus (Philippians 2:5-8, NIV).<\/p>\n

REID SMITH currently serves as a Pastor of Groups at Christ Fellowship in Palm Beach County, Florida, and has been a contributing author for various publications, including Lifeway\u2019s Ministry Grid. This post originally appeared on Lifeway’s Groups Ministry blog. <\/p>\n

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