{"id":32375,"date":"2022-09-10T16:07:08","date_gmt":"2022-09-10T21:07:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/3-ways-a-pastor-can-care-for-his-wife\/"},"modified":"2022-09-10T16:07:08","modified_gmt":"2022-09-10T21:07:08","slug":"3-ways-a-pastor-can-care-for-his-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.biblia.work\/sermons\/3-ways-a-pastor-can-care-for-his-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Ways A Pastor Can Care for His Wife"},"content":{"rendered":"
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By Ryan Rice<\/em><\/p>\n

One of my most embarrassing moments in ministry came after our first child was born. My wife had just undergone an emergency cesarean section and by God\u2019s grace, our first son was born healthy and whole.<\/p>\n

It was a tough moment, however, for both of us. The next day, my wife began her recovery, and we both began the journey of caring for our newborn son.<\/p>\n

Priorities are everything in life, and this was one moment where my priorities were not rightly aligned.<\/p>\n

Throughout the day, I began receiving text messages from the church. At the time, I served as a pastoral assistant and the person texting was in need of assistance.<\/p>\n

To my shame, I left my wife alone in the hospital, drove to the church, and got right to work assisting.<\/p>\n

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In reality, the person needing the assistance could\u2019ve waited, and the emergency was no emergency at all. At that moment, I devalued my spouse whom I should have protected.<\/p>\n

In many ways, I\u2019ve grown from that moment but I still struggle to ensure my priorities are rightly aligned.<\/p>\n

Church planting has forced me to constantly reevaluate my priorities and ensure I\u2019m not leaving my wife by the wayside.<\/p>\n

Church planters and their wives carry a heavy load together. Planting a church is a holy, honored, and heavy calling.<\/p>\n

If we\u2019re not careful, however, our wives can be left shattered and in the dust. As the church grows, people are reached, and leaders developed. We then turn around and find our spouses in shattered pieces.<\/p>\n

To avoid this tragedy, here are three ways a pastor can care for his wife.<\/p>\n

1. Protect Your Spouse<\/strong><\/h3>\n

If your wife is in the nursery every week, immediately find someone to take her place. The truth is, you\u2019d do better not to have a nursery than have her serving in it every week.<\/p>\n

Ask yourself, \u201cWhat member would you allow to miss church every single week?\u201d I mean, really, what member would you encourage to be completely removed from corporate worship on a consistent basis?<\/p>\n

If your wife is like mine, godly and sweet, she may not always say, \u201cHoney, I\u2019m burned out.\u201d<\/p>\n

However, as her husband and shepherd, it\u2019s your job to ensure her soul is taken care of.<\/p>\n

The point is this; your wife shouldn\u2019t be the only person in the entire church working in the nursery every week. You say, \u201cWell, we won\u2019t be able to have a nursery if she doesn\u2019t work it.\u201d<\/p>\n

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The truth is, the church will not implode if kids and parents worship together. In fact, it may be good for everyone to hear a child cry while you preach!<\/p>\n

2. Honor Your Spouse<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Honor your spouse in front of the congregation. Does your church know you adore and value your wife?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a great testimony for a pastor to have a great marriage. It honors Christ and also provides a great example for others to follow. Share with your congregation the joys of being the husband of one wife.<\/p>\n

I know of one pastor whose voicemail says he can\u2019t be reached on Fridays because he\u2019s with his best friend, his wife.<\/p>\n

Look for those intentional moments to let the church know how thankful you are for your wife.<\/p>\n

3. Love Your Spouse<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Finally, take care of your wife\u2019s name and reputation. People will go only as far as you allow them.<\/p>\n

For example, if a member comes up to you with something negative or derogatory to say about your spouse, don\u2019t allow it to go any further than that.<\/p>\n

Someone should never feel comfortable enough to say something derogatory about your wife to your face. In short, stand up for your wife.<\/p>\n

You say, \u201cWell if I correct this person, they’ll leave the church.\u201d They might, or they might not, but you have to go home to your wife\u2014not to that other person.<\/p>\n

The Scriptures call us to love our wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her.<\/p>\n

Let it be said of all of us that we loved as Christ loved and protected our wives to the glory of God.<\/p>\n

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Ryan Rice, Sr.<\/h2>\n

@ryanricesr<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Ryan is husband to Sean\u00e9, father of Ryan, Jr., Brayden, Reagen, and Bailey, and has been in ministry since 2007. He\u2019s currently the lead pastor of Connect Church of Algiers in New Orleans, Louisiana, which they planted in 2014.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n