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By Ron Edmondson<\/em><\/p>\n

I confess. I am an introvert. I am also the pastor of a large church.<\/p>\n

For many people, this doesn\u2019t add up. Big church pastors are supposed to be extroverts, with larger than life personalities in order to draw a crowd. Not me.<\/p>\n

This worried me when I first started as a pastor. I\u2019d been in business for years and felt God calling me to vocational ministry. But I didn\u2019t think that would work for an introvert.<\/p>\n

So at first, I tried to hide my introversion, out of fear that people would reject me as a leader if they knew my secret. No longer. Today, I\u2019m glad to be an introvert, because it makes me a better pastor. <\/p>\n

Strengths of introverts<\/h4>\n

This may be difficult for overly extroverted people to understand or appreciate, but there are some benefits to being an introvert.<\/p>\n

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For one, we tend to spend a lot of time thinking. It often makes us good strategizers. If you need help thinking a project through, call on an introvert.\u00a0 We\u2019d be glad to help.<\/p>\n

Plus, we usually think before we speak. Introverts choose our words very carefully. Everyone sticks their foot in their mouth occasionally\u2014but we are likely to do it less often. That has proven to be quite helpful as a pastor. <\/p>\n

Misconceptions about introverts<\/h4>\n

Still, there are lots of misconceptions about introverts. Here are a few false assumptions people have made about me: <\/p>\n

I\u2019m shy. That may be your word, but it\u2019s not mine. I prefer purposeful\u2014I will speak when there\u2019s a reason for me to do so. <\/p>\n

I need more courage. When I choose not to speak, it\u2019s not that I am scared. I\u2019m just comfortable being quiet. <\/p>\n

I\u2019ve got nothing to say. Actually, I have lots to say. I blog almost every day and often update Twitter and Facebook.\u00a0 But I often choose to communicate in writing rather than speaking. <\/p>\n

I\u2019m arrogant or I don\u2019t like you. Honestly, I love everyone. Or at least that\u2019s my personal goal and a biblical command. Listening is a way I can show you love and respect. <\/p>\n

I need you to talk for me. Actually, I\u2019d rather you not \u2013 unless you\u2019re my wife. If I have an opinion I think needs sharing, I can speak for myself. <\/p>\n

I need to change, mature, grow as a person or leader. There is nothing wrong with me. I am just quieter than some. I\u2019m not perfect. In fact, I still sin. There are lots of things wrong with me, but introversion is not one of them. <\/p>\n

Challenges of leading\u00a0as an introvert<\/h4>\n

There are some downsides to being an introverted pastor.<\/p>\n

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I can often fail to network when in a crowd. I will go to a conference, expecting to meet new people, but instead of engaging I stand in the corner waiting to be spoken to first.<\/p>\n

I am also not good at making small talk. That\u2019s a problem, because small\u00a0talk is the first step toward building healthy relationships or in making new people at church feel welcome.<\/p>\n

Because of my limitations, I\u2019ve learned a few tips on how to do effective ministry as an introvert. <\/p>\n

Prepare mentally. I try to prepare myself mentally for Sundays. I remind myself that I have a job to do, that people expect me to engage with them, that it is not going to be easy but I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength. I do this as a mental exercise before any event where I need to be outgoing. <\/p>\n

Act purposeful. I remind myself there is a reason to be extroverted in some occasions. Often people are waiting on me to engage them. To be a Kingdom builder, I have to converse with others even when it\u2019s uncomfortable. I\u2019m willing to act outside of my comfort zone to show people that I love them. <\/p>\n

Discipline myself. At some point, I just do it. I simply have to make myself do what I may not want to do. Work the room. Make the initial approach for a new relationship. Talk. Engage. Connect. Do it. <\/p>\n

Practice. It gets easier with time. It really does. <\/p>\n

Reward myself with down time. After an extremely extroverted occasion, I crash. Sunday afternoon I\u2019ve found, is a great time to nap. If the weather is nice, I will run for miles after church to unwind.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to remember people are different. We are unique. God designed us that way, and He didn\u2019t make a mistake. He never does.
Learning to appreciate introversion, rather than resist it, and adapting accordingly, has been a part of maturing as a person and leader.<\/p>\n

Ron Edmondson (@ronedmondson) <\/strong>is pastor, conference speaker, blogger and leadership consultant in Lexington, Ky. You can connect with him at RonEdmondson.com.<\/em><\/p>\n

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