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Taylor L. Spurgeon photo – Unsplash <\/p>\n

By Aaron Earls<\/em><\/p>\n

While much of the discussion surrounding abortion focuses on women, unplanned pregnancies involve both a man and a woman. And the men involved have complicated feelings on the subject.<\/p>\n

A new Care Net study conducted by Nashville-based Lifeway Research surveyed 1,000 American men whose partners had an abortion after he made her pregnant and who knew about the pregnancy prior to the abortion.<\/p>\n

The study reveals men with pregnant partners play a significant role in the decision to have an abortion but may not be aware of how much influence they have.<\/p>\n

\u201cIn 2015, when we surveyed women who had an abortion, they indicated men were the most influential factor in their decision,\u201d said Roland Warren, president and CEO of Care Net. \u201cCare Net recognized that despite this influence, the role of men had not yet been explored. This new study directly examines their feelings and experiences when the decision to have an abortion was made.\u201d<\/p>\n

Behind the decision<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Initially, the men were conflicted about the pregnancy. When asked about their emotions when they found out their partner was pregnant, around half (53%) say they were nervous, and 42% were scared. Still, 30% were happy about the pregnancy, and 28% were excited. Far fewer say they were indifferent (15%), embarrassed (14%) or angry (14%).<\/p>\n

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42% of men whose partners had an abortion say they encouraged the woman to do so, with 12% saying they strongly urged her to have an abortion, according to a Care Net study by Lifeway Research. Click To Tweet <\/p>\n

In making their decision, 42% of men whose partners had an abortion say they encouraged the woman to do so, with 12% saying they strongly urged her to do so. Around 3 in 10 (31%) say they didn\u2019t give any advice. More than 1 in 4 (27%) say they advised their partner not to have an abortion, including 8% who strongly urged her to not go through with it.<\/p>\n

Among those who encouraged their partner to have an abortion, men say finances played the primary role, but other factors contributed to their wanting their partner to have an abortion. Almost half (46%) say they and their partner couldn\u2019t afford a child at that time, while 29% say there were already enough kids in the picture.<\/p>\n

Around a quarter of men who advocated for an abortion point to relationship issues between them and their partner, as 24% say they didn\u2019t expect the relationship to be long-term, and 23% say there was conflict in the relationship.<\/p>\n

Almost 2 in 5 men who encouraged their partner to get an abortion (39%) say one of the reasons is they were not ready to be a father, according to a Care Net study by Lifeway Research. Click To Tweet <\/p>\n

Other reasons are focused more directly on the concerns of the man. Almost 2 in 5 (39%) say they were not ready to be a father, 17% say they hadn\u2019t completed their education, 17% say they didn\u2019t want others to know she was pregnant and 14% didn\u2019t want to pay child support.<\/p>\n

\u201cMany abortions occur because men are urging their partner to terminate the pregnancy,\u201d said Scott McConnell, executive director of Lifeway Research. \u201cHowever, around 3 in 10 men give their partners no advice even in situations where she discusses the decision with him.\u201d<\/p>\n

Most of the time, the pregnancy and subsequent abortion happened in the context of a serious relationship. A third of men (34%) say they were married at the time of their partner\u2019s abortion, while another 29% were living together. An additional 29% say they were \u201cseeing each other.\u201d Few say they knew each other but were not dating (3%), had just met (2%) or were no longer together at the time of the abortion (3%).<\/p>\n

Abortions most often occur in the context of a serious relationship \u2014 34% of men say they were married at the time of their partner\u2019s abortion and 29% were living together, according to a Care Net study by Lifeway Research. Click To Tweet <\/p>\n

When asked what roles they believe most people they know expect men and women to play in abortion decisions, 2 in 3 men whose partners had an abortion say the expectation is that the decision belongs to the woman, including 21% who say it is the woman\u2019s choice and the man has no role to play and 46% who say it is the woman\u2019s choice but the man should have some input. Around 3 in 10 (29%) say people expect it to be a choice the two should make together with equal input. Few (3%) say the expectation is the decision should primarily or exclusively be the man\u2019s.<\/p>\n

When asked what expectations they believe society places on them in a discussion surrounding unplanned pregnancies, 40% of men whose partners had an abortion say they believe others would want them to neither encourage nor discourage the woman\u2019s decision in any way. Around a third (32%) believe society thinks the man should encourage the woman to have the baby. Fewer (14%) say others believe the man should encourage the woman to abort. And 14% are not sure what society thinks.<\/p>\n

Abortion discussions<\/strong><\/h3>\n

According to the men involved, they were most likely to be the one with whom their partners discussed having an abortion. Around 3 in 4 men (74%) say their partners talked with them about the decision before getting an abortion. Close to half (48%) say their partners talked with a medical professional. Some men also say the woman spoke to her mother (38%), a friend or friends (33%), her father (17%), an abortion provider (17%) or another family member (13%). Few men believe their partner spoke with someone at a pregnancy care center (7%), a counselor (5%) or someone at a local church (3%).<\/p>\n

Men are most likely to say they were the most influential person in their partner\u2019s decision to have an abortion. Close to 4 in 10 men (38%) say they had the most influence. Fewer point to a medical professional (18%), the woman\u2019s mother (14%), her friends (7%), an abortion provider (4%), her father (3%) or another family member (2%).<\/p>\n

Men are most likely to say they were the most influential person in their partner\u2019s decision to have an abortion \u2014 38% say they had the most influence on the decision, according to a Care Net study by Lifeway Research. Click To Tweet <\/p>\n

The men involved are less likely to say they spoke about the decision to have an abortion with others. More than 2 in 5 (43%) say they only discussed it with their partner. Fewer than 3 in 10 say they had conversations with a medical professional (29%), a friend or friends (29%) or their mothers (27%). Even fewer say they spoke with their father (17%), another family member (11%), someone at church (5%), a counselor (5%) or someone at a pregnancy care center (5%).<\/p>\n

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\u201cNobody can deny that men have significant influence in many abortion decisions,\u201d said Warren. \u201cBoth women and men who have faced an unplanned pregnancy say the man is consulted in the majority of cases and is most frequently cited as having the most influence.\u201d<\/p>\n

At the time of the abortion, most men (54%) say they knew of local pregnancy centers that offer help, but 2 in 5 were not aware of such places.<\/p>\n

Church connections and disconnects<\/strong><\/h3>\n

While few men say they or their partner spoke with someone at church during their discussions about abortion, half of men (51%) say they were attending a Christian church once a month or more at the time of at least one of their partner\u2019s abortions. Even more (66%) say they currently attend religious services at least monthly.<\/p>\n

Half of men (51%) say they were attending a Christian church once a month or more at the time of at least one of their partner\u2019s abortions, according to a Care Net study by Lifeway Research. Click To Tweet <\/p>\n

More than 2 in 3 men whose partners have had an abortion (68%) identify as a Christian, including 36% Catholic, 17% Protestant, 10% nondenominational and 5% Orthodox. Around a quarter (24%) are religiously unaffiliated, with 10% giving no religious preference, 7% atheist and 6% agnostic. Fewer men whose partners have had an abortion say they are Jewish (2%) or Muslim (2%). When asked specifically if they are an evangelical or born-again Christian, 46% of men say yes, while 52% say no.<\/p>\n

Despite their religious identify and church attendance, almost half of men (45%) whose partners have had an abortion and who attend at least monthly say no one at their church knows about the abortion. Slightly more (48%) say someone is aware.<\/p>\n

Additionally, only 36% of men whose partners have had an abortion would recommend someone discuss an unplanned pregnancy with someone at a local church. Half (49%) would not.<\/p>\n

Almost half of men (45%) whose partners have had an abortion and who attend at least monthly say no one at their church knows about the abortion, according to a Care Net study by Lifeway Research. Click To Tweet <\/p>\n

Almost 2 in 3 men (64%) believe one can talk with a pastor about abortion confidentially, but few expect to receive an encouraging response from the church or pastor if they do.<\/p>\n

As men thought about the time of their partner\u2019s abortion, they expected to receive a critical reaction from a local church. More men say they expected churches to be judgmental (42%), condemning (30%), cold (24%) or indifferent (12%), compared to helpful (24%), caring (23%), informative (19%) or loving (18%). Men who were actually attending church once a month or more at the time of the abortion, however, are less likely than those who were attending less frequently to say the church would respond critically.<\/p>\n

\u201cFear of shame and condemnation appears to be deterring Christians from talking about their unplanned pregnancies with others in the church\u2014those they would otherwise trust as sources of hope and help,\u201d said Warren.\u00a0\u201cSpecifically, some Christian men seem more afraid of how an unplanned pregnancy coming to light could damage their reputation than they\u2019re concerned about the ramifications of an abortion. This should be a challenge to church leaders to change the way they\u00a0handle and respond\u00a0to unplanned pregnancies.\u201d<\/p>\n

Some Christian men seem more afraid of how an unplanned pregnancy coming to light could damage their reputation than they\u2019re concerned about the ramifications of an abortion. \u2014 Roland Warren, president and CEO of Care Net Click To Tweet <\/p>\n

Men whose partners have had an abortion have conflicted and divided thoughts about how people in their situation will be received in church and how forgiveness may apply to them. A 2015 Care Net study conducted by Lifeway Research among women who had abortions found some shared perspectives on the attitudes of churches and pastors but more areas of disagreement between women and men.<\/p>\n

Almost 3 in 4 men (72%) believe church members judge unmarried couples who are pregnant, yet 62% agree churches are prepared to provide support to couples who choose to keep a child resulting from an unplanned pregnancy.<\/p>\n

Most men (57%) say churches oversimplify decisions about pregnancy options, but 52% say churches are a safe place to talk about the ways in which they could respond to the pregnancy, including parenting, abortion and adoption.<\/p>\n

Most (54%) believe that pastors\u2019 teachings on forgiveness don\u2019t seem to apply to abortion, yet 51% say pastors teach God is willing to forgive past abortion decisions.<\/p>\n

Overall, 53% believe that pastors are sensitive to the pressures a man faces with an unplanned pregnancy.<\/p>\n

In the 2015 study of women, also sponsored by Care Net, slightly fewer women said pastors\u2019 teachings on forgiveness don\u2019t seem to apply to abortion (51%), and a similar share said churches oversimplify decisions about pregnancy options (54%).<\/p>\n

Women who have had abortions are significantly less likely than men whose partners have had abortions to say churches are prepared to provide support for a child resulting from unplanned pregnancy (51%), pastors teach God is willing to forgive past abortion decisions (42%), churches are sensitive to the pressures of people in their situation (39%) and churches are safe places to discuss pregnancy options (38%). They are also less likely, however, to say churches judge someone who is unmarried and pregnant (65%).<\/p>\n

\u201cThere are mixed feelings even among churchgoers on how helpful churches are in decisions about unplanned pregnancies,\u201d said McConnell. \u201cWhile many men recognize sensitivity and support, fewer are currently willing to recommend others turn to a church when facing an unplanned pregnancy.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Aaron Earls<\/h2>\n

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Aaron is a writer for LifewayResearch.com.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n