Pointers on <\/p>\n
Have you ever stood by and watched guilt or grief or some other kind of pain eat away at someone you cared about? You may have felt nearly as helpless as that hurting person. What can you do for the friend, family member, co-worker, or neighbor whose life is coming apart from inner pain? Some ways you may be able to help hurting people….<\/p>\n
1. Listen. Use your ears more than your mouth. Don\u2019t let the urge to offer advice get in the way of hearing what the person has to say. Usually, just having someone who cares enough to really listen will help relieve a hurting heart.<\/p>\n
2. Ask questions. They can be hard, pointed, maybe even leading questions. This approach will often help people look at options they may not have considered. Just as important, it lets them make their own decisions. <\/p>\n
3. Don\u2019t be squeamish. Where there\u2019s an infection, there\u2019s pus. You will probably feel uncomfortable at first about getting into the details of another person\u2019s pain. But that person may need to express things most people don\u2019t want to hear.<\/p>\n
4. Don\u2019t be judgmental. If it\u2019s guilt poisoning someone\u2019s heart, you might hear a confession that will shock or sicken you. Try to remember the old saying, \u201cLove the sinner and hate the sin.\u201d Instead of piling on more guilt, be a channel of God\u2019s grace.<\/p>\n
5. Don\u2019t tattle. Legally and morally, you may not be able to keep everything a person tells you confidential. Yet you certainly have an obligation not to gossip.<\/p>\n
6. Go get help. This isn\u2019t always necessary. And you should get a hurting person\u2019s permission before you take this step. But don\u2019t think you have to help that person all by yourself, and don\u2019t feel bad if someone needs more help than you can give.<\/p>\n
7. Share the Good News. Don\u2019t be shy about opening up your Bible. You might check a concordance or ask your pastor for appropriate passages. If the person doesn\u2019t already belong to church, invite him or her to yours. There is grace in the communion of the saints.<\/p>\n
8. Pray. Make sure you pray with and for people you want to help. They will appreciate it, and you will be leading them into the presence of our faithful Savior, who heals body and soul, in life and in death.<\/p>\n
Bruce Anderson, Chaplain, US Naval Air, Fallon, NV, quoted in Lifeline, Fall, 1996, p. 2<\/p>\n
Christians Counsel Best<\/b><\/p>\n
People have wondered if it is possible to minister to mental-emotional-behavioral problems without resorting to psychological models and methods or to psychological gimmicks and devices. The evidence suggests that it is. Three researchers found in a national survey conducted for the Joint Commission on Mental Illness and Health that \u201cof those persons who actively sought help for personal problems, the vast majority contacted persons other than mental health professionals, and that generally they were more satisfied with the help received than were those who chose psychiatrists and psychologists.\u201d <\/p>\n
Martin & Diedre Bobgan, How To Counsel From Scripture, Moody Press, 1985, p. 42<\/p>\n
Rate of Cure<\/b><\/p>\n
Hans Isnik (sp?) did a study and found that if you have emotional problems, the probability that you will be well in 1 year if you go to see a psychoanalyst is 44%; psychotherapist is 53%; Psychiatrist is 61%; no one at all is 73%. <\/p>\n
Tony Campolo<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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