5 estupideces que dicen los predicadores
Por Mark Dance
Los pastores a veces dicen cosas estúpidas sin darse cuenta. Hoy, vamos a divertirnos un poco a nuestra costa reuniendo nuestros «predicadores» incómodos. Mi esperanza es que al hacerlo, seremos más cuidadosos con lo que decimos.
Como nos recuerda Proverbios 12:1: “El que odia la corrección es necio”.
Pedro es nuestro santo patrón de las declaraciones estúpidas. En Marcos 9:5-6, Pedro le dijo a Jesús: “Rabí, es bueno que estemos aquí. Haremos tres refugios: uno para ti, uno para Moisés y otro para Elías” — porque no sabía qué decir, ya que estaban aterrorizados.
We love Peter both in spite of and because of his imperfections. What I love most about Peter is how he grew through his immaturity. God used that same careless tongue that denied and frustrated Jesus to preach the gospel to thousands.
I have thirty years of pastoral fumbles to draw on for this post, so I’ll prime the pump with five stupid statements I’ve used repeatedly.
In the comments section, I’d really love for you to add more stupid things you’ve heard or said.
1. “Call me any time.”
Do we really mean this, or is it a figure of speech? Quite frankly, it matters less what we mean and more what they perceive. We must be careful about writing blank checks like this to our church members.
A pastor who’s available all the time has created a life and ministry without boundaries or priorities. God has a clear pecking order for us, which in my life, starts with Jesus and Janet.
2. “I’ll pray about it.”
Sometimes this is the best thing to say, and then there are the other times. The difference between this being a smart or stupid statement is the context.
If you know you’re going to say “no” or “yes,” then are you actually going to pray about it?
“Let your ‘yes’ mean ‘yes,’ and your ‘no’ mean ‘no.’ Anything more than this is from the evil one,” as Matthew 5:37 says.
3. “I’d rather burn out than rust out.”
Okay, let’s all own this one, friends. This tired old line probably originated in a Die Hard movie and needs to be enshrined in the Preacher Hall of Shame.
It’s a stupid line because we don’t have to choose between these avoidable options. I’d rather do neither.
Pastors who burn out need to start equipping people instead of enabling them. Pastors who rust out need to do a better job “devoting ourselves to prayer and to the ministry of the word,” as Acts 6:4 reminds us.
4. “I love you.”
Is there anything wrong with telling someone you love them? You can say the right thing in the wrong context and turn something special into something stupid.
I’m not provoking you here; I’m just cautioning you not to use “I love you” too casually. Instead, use it intentionally because love is a covenant word, not a casual word.
For example, “I love you” becomes a stupid statement when it’s said to someone of the opposite sex. The exception is when they’re clearly old enough to be your parent.
5. “I’ll be right there.”
I’ve made and broken this promise countless times to my family, friends, and church members. Our intentions may be good, but over-promising consistently leads to under-delivering, which is how the erosion of trust develops.
A cousin of this stupid statement is, “I’ll call you right back.” Listen, a man of the Word needs to be a man of his word.
Your honesty will run more miles than your efficiency. Most people don’t expect you to drop everything for them, and those who do will quickly become multiple offenders.
I hope this post has been helpful to you. This is intended to be an exercise in encouragement, not embarrassment.
Mark Dance
@markdance
After serving as a pastor for 28 years, Mark is now the director of pastoral wellness for Guidestone Financial Resources. He frequently speaks at churches, conferences, and retreats—often with his wife Janet. Read more from him at MarkDance.net.
Redeeming How We Talk
Discover How Communication Fuels Our Growth, Shapes Our Relationships, and Changes Our Lives
Ken Wytsma, A. J. Swoboda
FIND OUT MORE