57 SAY “I WAS WRONG” WHEN YOU ARE WRONG

The three hardest words to say in marriage are I was wrong. We try to defend ourselves or excuse our sin. A.W. Tozer’s vow is helpful here: Never defend yourself.

God is our sure defense. Why would we choose to defend ourselves when God can bring His infinite resources and strength to our side?

However, many times our defense becomes a series of excuses that cannot replace true confession and repentance. The most direct path toward healing hurts in marriage is repentance.

Once you’ve admitted guilt, ask for forgiveness. Then quit doing or saying the hurtful thing. Allow yourself to forget the offense. Ask your mate to forget it also so that it’s never brought up again.

Remember that even the slightest responsibility for hurt should be admitted. You don’t have to be totally wrong to confess. Repent of any part you had in causing pain or hurt.

Try this: Say, “I was wrong,” before you are caught. Admit to whatever part of being wrong you are responsible for.

Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed.

James 5:16