Author: Administrador

Imagine a roof with a rotten support beam. Now you have two choices: 1.     Tear out the beam to replace it and risk having the roof fall in on you. 2.     Or, put in a new beam and then tear out the old. Continuing attacking a child’s weaknesses risks destroying the child. Building on a child’s strengths … Continue reading “57 BUILDING ON A CHILD’S STRENGTHS HELPS
HIM/HER OVERCOME WEAKNESSES.”

“You will obey me or I will beat you until the sun don’t shine,” yelled the angry parent. Instilling fear of you in a child sows seeds of destruction into our relationship. Intimidation tries to control a child by fear. A child learns to fear the parent and obeys the parent fearing emotional or physical … Continue reading “58 INTIMIDATING A CHILD CREATES A FEARFUL,
ANGRY ADULT.”

Domination seeks to control a child’s thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and will. The parent who feels it’s necessary to control a child is insecure. Feeling inwardly inadequate, a controlling parent outwardly appears to be strong, dominating, aggressive and overly confident. Dominating a child results in a child who fails to mature. Domination creates dependent children who … Continue reading “59 DOMINATING A CHILD CREATES A WEAK,
IMMATURE ADULT.”

“I just don’t have enough time to spend quality time with my child,” bemoaned the parent. Then find the time! Children need their parents around. We find time for everything else—work, rest, hobbies, talking on the phone, watching TV, entertainment, eating, etc. We give our time to what’s important to us. Our priorities must be: … Continue reading “54 NO SUBSTITUTE EXISTS FOR QUALITY,
ONE-ON-ONE TIME WITH CHILDREN.”

Do you have to always be right, even if means sacrificing your relationship with a child? Winning arguments with your child is not the way to resolve conflict. Discipline teaches what’s right. That’s different than having to “be right.” I may believe what’s right, but how I communicate and act toward a child can be … Continue reading “55 YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD IS
OFTEN MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR BEING RIGHT.”

“Dad, the only time you ever talk to me is to point out my mistakes,” complained the son. Make a journal. Log how many times a day you say something negative to your child. Then log all the positive, affirming, and encouraging things you say daily to your child. Which list is longer? We sometimes … Continue reading “56 REPLACE CRITICISM WITH AFFIRMATION.”

Some parents constantly are telling children, “Do this” or “Don’t do this.” Life is filled with dos and don’ts. But a child’s self-esteem isn’t founded on performance; it’s rooted in being. Who we are is far more important than what we do. Help your child mature by emphasizing who he or she is. Tell a … Continue reading “51 WHO CHILDREN ARE IS FAR MORE IMPORTANT
THAN WHAT THEY DO. CHILDREN ARE HUMAN BEINGS, NOT HUMAN DOINGS.”

Are you willing to love your child unconditionally? That means that your love doesn’t depend on what they do. Your love for your child isn’t withdrawn just because you are upset with their behavior or attitude. Conditional love is a controlling, manipulative love. It says, “I will love you if …” God’s love (agape) says, … Continue reading “52 UNCONDITIONAL LOVE SAYS, “THERE IS
NOTHING YOU CAN DO THAT WILL MAKE ME STOP LOVING YOU.””

“God squeezes us to see what will come out,” the speaker commented. When you squeeze a tube of toothpaste, you expect toothpaste to come out. When you squeeze a parent, what do you expect to come out? Obviously whatever is in us will come out, especially when we are under stress and pressure. Too often, … Continue reading “53 RIGHT REACTIONS ARISE FROM ACTING LIKE
GOD NOT JUST ACTING LIKE OUR PARENTS.”

“Dad never keeps his promises,” complained the young boy. For this child, the path of his life was littered with the broken glass of shattered promises. His dad was always promising to do something with him, but rarely keeping his promises. Expectantly the son would wait at the door for his father to come home … Continue reading “49 PROMISE-KEEPING BUILDS TRUST ON BOTH
SIDES OF THE FENCE.”