Author: Administrador

Each time we moved during our marriage, we couldn’t believe how much stuff we had accumulated. Nonetheless, we could not measure our impact based on the number of moving boxes we had added since the last move. Rather, we had to measure growth by other criteria, such as: Had we changed for the better? Was … Continue reading “34 MEASURE GROWTH BY FRUIT, NOT JUST STUFF”

“Until death do us part,” sounds archaic and traditional. However, that’s exactly what we expect a covenant to be: lifelong. I was standing at the grocery counter as the twenty-something clerk rang up my groceries. My golf shirt read, “Married for Life.” “I’m so sorry,” she commented. I was taken back. I couldn’t believe my … Continue reading “35 PURPOSE TO BE MARRIED FOR LIFE”

Whatever we try to control or dominate in marriage, we will ultimately destroy. One of the deadly cancers that eats away at marital harmony is control. Are you a controlling and dominating spouse? Do you find yourself correcting almost everything your mate says? Do you have to know everywhere your mate is going and everything … Continue reading “36 RELEASE YOUR MATE TO BE ALL GOD CREATED HER TO BE”

“I wish we could just have two weeks alike,” moaned the frustrated husband. Truthfully, the only constant in life is change. God is the God of the new. He is continually doing a new thing in your marriage. New means change. God is changing you from the inside out. He’s making you a new creation … Continue reading “32 ALWAYS EXPECT GOD TO BE DOING SOMETHING NEW IN YOUR
MARRIAGE”

“I can’t believe it. My kids are starting off where I left off. They have so much more now than we had when we started in marriage. It’s just not fair,” protested the selfish parents. A bumper sticker common to the area we live in reads, “I’m spending my kids’ inheritance.” How sad. Why would … Continue reading “33 LEAVE AN INHERITANCE FOR YOUR CHILDREN”

“Contracts are made to be broken,” the businessman advised me. I was appalled. But then I considered how most couples regard their marriage as a contract, not a covenant. What’s the difference? A contract has provisions for being broken. A covenant is lasting. A contract is a bilateral agreement. A covenant is trilateral—God, husband and … Continue reading “29 KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE VOW; YOU’RE IN A COVENANT, NOT A
CONTRACT”

A serendipity is an unplanned experience of joy. You can enjoy the unexpected. Marriage is full of unplanned experiences that can either unsettle you or enliven you. Recently my wife and I unexpectedly found ourselves with 48 hours, stranded in a strange city, with no plans or expectations. Wow, we had a great time together! … Continue reading “30 ENJOY SERENDIPITIES”

“As soon as the baby is born, we will.…” “As soon as junior is out of diapers, we will.…” “When he moves out, we will.…” “After we pay off the debt, we must.…” “When we retire, we will.…” Some couples keep wishing their lives away. They can’t enjoy the journey. They are always looking ahead … Continue reading “31 ENJOY THE JOURNEY”

“I told you so.” Where does it stop? You know, the finger pointing. When is enough enough? What’s the cost of being right all the time? To say that conflict never happens in marriage is to deny the uniqueness of the individuals involved. Spouses bring their own pasts, wants, desires and expectations into the marriage, … Continue reading “27 WINNING LOSES: IF ONE WINS THE ARGUMENT, BOTH LOSE”

Your vision is bound by possibilities, time and space. But God’s vision for your marriage has eternal significance and can move you from the realm of possibilities into the real of impossibilities. God’s presence gives you the perspective and vision to see the lasting impact everything in your marriage will possess. If whatever you do … Continue reading “28 WRITE DOWN GOD’S VISION FOR YOUR MARRIAGE”