Exegetical and Hermeneutical Commentary of Proverbs 25:15
By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.
15. We have an illustration of this proverb in the effect of the “long forbearing” of David during his persecution by Saul, and of his “soft tongue” at Engedi (1 Samuel 24), and in the wilderness of Ziph ( Ib. Pro 26:7 ff.): “And it came to pass, when David had made an end of speaking these words unto Saul, that Saul said, Is this thy voice, my son David? And Saul lifted up his voice and wept: “Return, my son David; for I will no more do thee harm, because my soul was precious in thine eyes this day.”
Fuente: The Cambridge Bible for Schools and Colleges
A soft tongue – Winning and gentle speech does what it seems at first least capable of doing; it overcomes obstacles which are as bones that the strongest jaws would fail to crush.
Fuente: Albert Barnes’ Notes on the Bible
Pro 25:15
By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.
The power of gentleness
In the government of our words, mildness, or meekness, is specially commendable. The right disposition includes meekness, gentleness, courteousness, kindness. These are the virtues of a soft tongue. The opposites are hardness, roughness, sharpness, bitterness, clamour, brawling. By the term breaking is meant persuading, pacifying, convincing, appeasing, prevailing with. A meek and gentle way of discourse is the most effectual means to overcome the fiercest passions and most obdurate, cruel dispositions. A calm and gentle way in vindicating ourselves is the most effectual means to work confusion in such as would calumniate and reproach us. This truth may be confirmed by two considerations.
1. The nature of these fierce passions and this obduracy or hardness of temper, which are increased by opposition, and consequently must be abated by gentleness and yielding.
2. From the nature of lenity and gentleness, whose property it is to insinuate itself into the hardest things. It is compared with oil. How does this doctrine consist with the imprecations of Scripture? Explain that some of them, though pronounced optatively, are to be understood declaratively, as descriptive of the true state and condition of such parties. Those who used these imprecations were inspired for a particular purpose. They spoke in their zeal for God. It may be right to wish evil to come to persons for the sake of its disciplinary mission. How does this doctrine consist with the severe imprecations of Scripture? Our Saviour called the Pharisees vipers, Herod a fox. The apostle calls some people dogs. To this it may be said, those who have an extraordinary power of discerning may use such hard terms. And those in public stations may thus severely chide and reprehend. How does this doctrine consist with the duties of zeal and reproving, which sometimes must be done with severity? A man may sometimes sin in not being angry. True meekness of wisdom directs a, man how to order his zeal and rebukes. Learn–
1. That if soft words be of such a prevailing efficacy, soft and gentle actions must be so too.
2. The folly and sinfulness of hard speeches, whereby others may be provoked to anger and offence.
3. The lawfulness and fitness of giving men the reverence and honour due to their proper titles.
4. Bitter and provoking words are unmanly, as being against the rules of morality and very un-Christian, as being against the precepts of the gospel. (Bp. John Wilkins.)
The manifestation and mightiness of moral power
There are three kinds of power–material, mental, and moral.
I. The manifestation of moral power. The words indicate a threefold manifestation.
1. Stillness. By long forbearing is a prince persuaded. Forbearance implies calm endurance–a patience like that which the Great Heavenly Exemplar exhibited under insults and persecutions.
2. Speech. A soft tongue breaketh the bone. A soft tongue not a simpering tongue, not a silly tongue, not a sycophantic tongue, but the soft tongue of tender love and forbearing kindness. Such a tongue is might: it breaketh the bone. This somewhat paradoxical expression expresses the amazing power of kind words; they break the bone, the ossified heart of the enemy. Another manifestation of power here is–
3. Service. If thine enemy be hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he be thirsty, give him water to drink, etc. In the smelting of metals, says Arnot, whether on a large or small scale, it is necessary that the burning coals should be above the ore as well as beneath it. The melting fuel and the rude stones to be melted are mingled together and brought into contact, particle by particle, throughout the mass. It is thus that the resistance of the stubborn material is overcome, and the precious separated from the vile. There are but few hearts so obdurate as not to melt under the fires of love that blaze over and under them. These words direct our attention to–
II. The mightiness of moral power.
1. Persuading. By long forbearing is a prince persuaded. Thus David brought down Saul (1Sa 24:8-20; 1Sa 26:3-20).
2. Breaking. A soft tongue breaketh the bone. Loving words can mollify the roughest natures. Gideon, with a kind word, pacified the Ephraimites, and Abigail turned Davids wrath away.
3. Melting. Thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. The Americans have a tract on this subject, entitled, The Man who Killed his Neighbours. It contains, in the form of a narrative, many useful, practical suggestions on the art of overcoming evil with good. It is with kindness–modest, thoughtful, generous, persevering, unwearied kindness–that the benevolent countryman killed his churlish neighbour: and it is only the old evil man that he kills, leaving the new man to lead a very different life in the same village, after the dross has been purged away. How sublimely elevated is the moral legislation of the Bible! (D. Thomas, D.D.)
The power of Christian kindness
There is a tremendous power in a kind word.
1. Kindness as a means of defence. Have you ever known acerbity and acrimonious dispute settle a quarrel? I have seen men moving amid the annoyances, and vexations, and assaults of life in such calm Christian deliberation that all the buzzing around about their soul amounted to nothing. They conquered them, and, above all, conquered themselves.
2. Kindness as a means of usefulness. In all communities you find sceptical men. How shall you capture them for God? Sharp argument and sareastic retort never yet won a single soul from scepticism to the Christian religion. When such are brought in, it is through the charm of some genial soul, and not by argument at all. Men are not saved through the head; they are saved through the heart. The same thing is true in the reclamation of the openly vicious. Was ever a drunkard saved through the caricature of a drunkard? You can never drive man, woman, or child into the kingdom of God. (T. De Witt Talmage, D.D.)
Fuente: Biblical Illustrator Edited by Joseph S. Exell
Verse 15. A soft tongue breaketh the bone.] This is similar to another proverb on the same subject: “A soft answer turneth away wrath.” An angry word does nothing but mischief.
Fuente: Adam Clarke’s Commentary and Critical Notes on the Bible
By long forbearing, by patient submission and expectation,
is a prince persuaded, or pacified, whereas his rage is increased by opposition. Compare Ecc 10:4.
A soft tongue, a mild and humble answer,
breaketh the bone; softeneth a heart which is as hard as bone or stone. He alludes to those oils which sink through the flesh to the very bone. See Psa 109:18.
Fuente: English Annotations on the Holy Bible by Matthew Poole
15. Gentleness and kindnessovercome the most powerful and obstinate.
long forbearingor,”slowness to anger” (Pro 14:29;Pro 15:18).
Fuente: Jamieson, Fausset and Brown’s Commentary Critical and Explanatory on the Whole Bible
By long forbearing is a prince persuaded,…. To come into measures, and do that which his council and ministry advise him to, and to which he may seem at first very averse; but by a mild and gentle representation of things, by an humble submission of them to him, and by frequent remonstrances and patient waiting, his mind is softened, bent, and inclined to take their advice, and pursue the measures suggested to him; which, had they been pressed with heat, haughtiness, and haste, would have been rejected;
and a soft tongue breaketh the bone; or “hardness”, as the Vulgate Latin version renders it; soft words, or words delivered in soft language, remove hardness and roughness from the minds of men; and work upon, influence, and bend men, whose wills are obstinate and stubborn, and make them pliable and tractable: so David, with a soft tongue, wrought upon Saul, his enemy; and Abigail, by her soft language, turned the mind of David, who was bent upon the destruction of Nabal,
1Sa 24:16; see Pr 15:1. Jarchi interprets this soft tongue of prayer and supplication, by which severe things against sinners are removed from them; and so he understands the former clause of the forbearance of God, which gives encouragement to sinners, to persuade him in their favour by repentance and prayer; see Mt 18:26.
Fuente: John Gill’s Exposition of the Entire Bible
Three proverbs follow, which have this in common, that they exhort to moderation:
15 By forbearance is a judge won over,
And a gentle tongue breaketh the bone.
( vid., Pro 6:7) does not denote any kind of distinguished person, but a judge or a person occupying a high official position. And does not here mean, to talk over or delude; but, like Jer 20:7, to persuade, to win over, to make favourable to one; for ( vid., Pro 14:29) is dispassionate calmness, not breaking out into wrath, which finally makes it manifest that he who has become the object of accusation, suspicion, or of disgrace, is one who nevertheless has right on his side; for indecent, boisterous passion injures even a just cause; while, on the contrary, a quiet, composed, thoughtful behaviour, which is not embarrassed by injustice, either experienced or threatened, in the end secures a decision in our favour. “Patience overcomes” is an old saying. The soft, gentle tongue (cf. , Pro 15:1) is the opposite of a passionate, sharp, coarse one, which only the more increases the resistance which it seeks to overcome. “Patience,” says a German proverb, “breaks iron;” another says, “Patience is stronger than a diamond.” So here: a gentle tongue breaketh the bone ( = , as at Pro 17:22), it softens and breaks to pieces that which is hardest. Sudden anger makes the evil still worse; long-suffering, on the contrary, operates convincingly; cutting, immoderate language, embitters and drives away; gentle words, on the contrary, persuade, if not immediately, yet by this, that they remain as it were unchangeable.
Fuente: Keil & Delitzsch Commentary on the Old Testament
15 By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.
Two things are here recommended to us, in dealing with others, as likely means to gain our point:– 1. Patience, to bear a present heat without being put into a heat by it, and to wait for a fit opportunity to offer our reasons and to give persons time to consider them. By this means even a prince may be persuaded to do a thing which he seemed very averse to, much more a common person. That which is justice and reason now will be so another time, and therefore we need not urge them with violence now, but wait for a more convenient season. 2. Mildness, to speak without passion or provocation: A soft tongue breaks the bone; it mollifies the roughest spirits and overcomes those that are most morose, like lightning, which, they say, has sometimes broken the bone, and yet not pierced the flesh. Gideon with a soft tongue pacified the Ephraimites and Abigail turned away David’s wrath. Hard words, we say, break no bones, and therefore we should bear them patiently; but, it seems, soft words do, and therefore we should, on all occasions, give them prudently.
Fuente: Matthew Henry’s Whole Bible Commentary
Patience and Soft Words
Verse 15 affirms that patience without rancor will persuade even a prince or person of high rank; and a soft tongue (gentle speech) will overcome the resistance of those who would never heed harsh language, Pro 15:1; 1Sa 25:10-13; 1Sa 25:23-34; Jdg 8:1-3.
Fuente: Garner-Howes Baptist Commentary
CRITICAL NOTES.
Pro. 25:15. Prince. Rather Judge
MAIN HOMILETICS OF Pro. 25:15
FORBEARANCE AND PERSUASIVENESS
I. Patience without speech is an overcoming power. The strongest smith will find a piece of cold iron too much for himif he attempt to bend or break it he will be met with a resistance which he cannot overcome. But he places the apparently unconquerable bar upon the coals, and by degrees it seems to assume altogether another nature, and is ready to be fashioned to any shape or form. He gets this victory by waiting, and he finds it a far more effectual method than attempting to subdue the metal by physical force. Forbearance will sometimes do as much for the stubborn human will as the fire does for the iron. Many men who cannot be threatened into compliance with our wishes, may be overcome by patient kindness. A prince may be here put by Solomon as a type of all men in authority and high position, who by reason of their position are less under the power of others and consequently are less likely to yield to any other force than persuasion. With such men high-handed dealing and efforts to intimidate generally provoke a more stubborn resistance.
II. Patience seconded by gentle speech is doubly powerful. The smiths work is not done when by waiting he has given time for the iron to become soft and impressible; he must then bring his skill and activity to bear upon it and so mould it to his will. So after long forbearance there must be wise and persuasive speech to finish the work. The long-suffering patience, perhaps under trial and provocation, has softened the hard heart or the stubborn will, and now the gentle words are listened to and have their full weight. But this would not have been the case if patience without speech had not gone first to make way for them.
III. Those who conquer by forbearance in deed and gentleness in word walk in the Divine footsteps. In the dealings of God with the human race, no attribute of His character is more manifest than the riches of His forbearance and long suffering (Rom. 2:4), and it is by this that He leads men to repentance. Instead of coming down upon man by storm, says Dr. Bushnell, in a manner of direct onset to carry his submission by storm, God lays gentle siege to him, waiting for his willing assent and choice. To redress an injury by gentleness, and tame his adversarys will by the circuitous approach of forbearance and a siege of true suggestion is not the manner of men, only of God. It is not, alas! the manner of men in general, but all those who call Him Master try to imitate Him in this as in all other of His perfections that can be imitated by finite and imperfect creatures.
OUTLINES AND SUGGESTIVE COMMENTS
The soft member breaking the hard bone may seem to be a paradox. But it is a fine illustration of the power of gentleness above hardness and irritation. Apply it to those who are set against the truth. Many a stout heart has been won by a forbearing, yet uncompromising, accommodation to prejudice. In reproof Jehovah showed what He could do in the strong wind and the earthquake. But His effective rebuke was in the still small voice; without upbraiding; sharp, yet tender, (1Ki. 19:11-13.) So powerful is the energy of gentleness! Indeed, among all the graces that adorn the Christian soul, like so many jewels of various colours and lustres, against the day of her espousals to the Lamb of God, there is not one more brilliant than that of patience.
Fuente: The Preacher’s Complete Homiletical Commentary Edited by Joseph S. Exell
15. By long forbearing By delay of anger or resentment; by patience.
A soft tongue (a gentle or kind word) breaketh the bone Changes the most obstinate mind and allays the most irritated feeling. Similar to another proverb, “A soft answer turneth away wrath;” or the German proverb, “Patience breaks iron.” Compare Pro 15:1; Pro 16:14; Luke 18:45; Gen 32:4, et seq.; 1Sa 25:24.
Fuente: Whedon’s Commentary on the Old and New Testaments
Pro 25:15 By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.
Ver. 15. By long forbearing is a prince persuaded. ] If he be not over hasty, his wrath may be appeased, and his mind altered. Our Henry III gave commandment for the apprehending of Hubert de Burgo, Earl of Kent, who, having sudden notice thereof at midnight, got him up and fled into a church in Essex. They to whom the business was committed finding him upon his knees before the high altar, with the sacrament in one hand, and a cross in the other, carried him away nevertheless unto the Tower of London. Roger, Bishop of London, taking this to be a great violence and wrong offered unto the holy Church, would never leave the king until he had caused the earl to be carried unto the place whence he was fetched. And this, it is thought, was a means of saving the earl’s life. For though order was taken he should not escape thence, yet it gave the king’s wrath a time to cool, and himself leisure to make his apology, by reason whereof he was afterwards restored to the king’s favour and former places of honour. a So true is that of the philosopher, Maximum irae remedium est dilatio, b and that of the poet –
“Ut fragilis glacies, interit ira mora.” – Ovid.
There are those who read and sense the words thus: By meekness a prince is appeased – that is, when he seeth that he is not opposed, that his subjects repine not, rebel not against him. An old courtier of Nero’s being asked how he had escaped that lion’s mouth, answered, Iniurias ferendo, et gratias agendo, by taking shrewd turns and being thankful.
A soft tongue breaketh the bones.
a Godwin’s Catal., p. 164.
b Sen., De Ira.
prince: or judge, persuaded. Compare Gen 26:13-31.
tongue. Put by Figure of speech Metonymy (of Cause), for what is spoken by it.
breaketh the bone: i.e. overcometh obstinacy.
Pro 25:15
Pro 25:15
“By long forbearing is a ruler persuaded, And a soft tongue breaketh the bone.”
“A prince may be persuaded by patience, and a soft tongue may break down solid bone. Jesus may have had this in mind when he spoke of the ‘unjust judge’ (Luk 18:6). The American Standard Version marginal reading allows `judge’ here instead of ruler.
Pro 25:15. One can defeat himself sometimes by being too pushy. By being hasty of spirit we can sometimes exalt folly (Pro 14:29) instead of success. We are commanded to reprove, rebuke, exhort, with all longsuffering and teaching (2Ti 4:2). We are told in 2Ti 2:24-25 that the Lords servant must not strive, but be gentle towards all, apt to teach, forbearing, in meekness correcting them that oppose themselves; if peradventure God may give them repentance unto the knowledge of the truth. And we are told in Pro 15:1 that a soft answer turneth away wrath.
Self-Control and Kindliness
Pro 25:15-28
In this paragraph we have good advice as to our dealings with the varied characters with whom we are forced into daily contact. Here is a man hard as a bone-try gentleness, for a soft tongue will win his heart, just because it finds a new and unexpected way of approach which no one else has tried for long years. Beware of honeyed words; you may get stung. Do not make yourself too common, or pry into your neighbors affairs, or ask his help too often. Keep clear of the tale-bearer. Be very careful to whom you confide your troubles. Vinegar poured on potash makes it effervesce; so joyous mirth is incongruous to a heavy heart. Even if your love fails to meet your enemy, the Lord will reward you by revealing and communicating His own perfection, Mat 5:43-48. If you frown on a backbiter, you will silence him. Do not give way to the wicked, lest you become a corrupted spring. Rule over your spirit-nay, better, hand over its keys to Emmanuel, and let Him be crowned in Mansoul.
long: Pro 15:1, Pro 16:14, Gen 32:4-21, 1Sa 25:14, 1Sa 25:24-44, Ecc 10:4
the bone: Rather, “a bone;” that is, soft and conciliating language will often accomplish the most difficult things.
Reciprocal: Jdg 8:3 – Then Jdg 14:9 – General 1Sa 1:15 – my Lord Job 41:3 – General Pro 15:18 – he Pro 31:26 – in her
Pro 25:15. By long forbearing is a prince persuaded That is, by patient submission and expectation he is pacified, whereas his rage is increased by opposition. And a soft tongue breaketh the bone A mild and humble answer softens a heart which is as hard as a bone or stone. He alludes to those oils which sink through the flesh to the very bone: see Psa 109:18.
25:15 By long {l} forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the {m} bone.
(l) By not creating opportunity to provoke him further.
(m) That is, the heart that is bent to anger, as in Pro 15:1.
By adding a few words, the idea of this verse becomes clearer. "By forbearance [of speech] a ruler may be persuaded." That is, do not speak too long. A gentle tongue can be very powerful.
"Calm and patient speech can break down insurmountable opposition." [Note: Ross, p. 1082.]
"The bones are the most rigid body parts inside of a person, and fracturing the bones here refers to breaking down the deepest, most hardened resistance to an idea a person may possess." [Note: D. A. Garrett, Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Song of Songs, p. 207.]
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